And when you fall, you gotta jump higher than before

Life can be hard sometimes. We wish it was easier but it wasn’t. For me, to be honest, I wish life was like a game. When you lose in a game, you can always start it from the beginning again. All mistakes are cleared. And you get a new start to play.

But life is not like a game.

You can’t undo your words. You can’t undo your actions. Once it’s done, it’s done. That’s why we should speak and act wisely. I know, it’s easier to be said than done. 

As a human, we make mistakes. But, always remember that we can always learn from it. Guess life is all about learning. We learn from experience, we learn from school, we learn from other people, we learn from mistakes. That, could be one of the points from living. 

So, should we do a mistake to learn? Of course not.

What I wanted to say here is, don’t hate yourself for did a mistake. Learn from it instead. Yeah I know, once again, it’s easier to be said than done. That’s true.

But think about this : it wouldn’t make you feel better to keep regretting your mistakes. To drown yourself in sadness? It’s useless. It wouldn’t make you be a better person.

Let’s say you have a math exam. When you failed and you kept regretting it, and did nothing about it, it’d be useless for you. You would keep failing in the next exam. But if you learn from it, you observe your mistakes and find out how to do it right, you might pass the next exam with a good grade.

You are the only one who can pull up yourself from the sea of regret. Others can also help you, but the key is in your hand. Life is short, don’t waste it to be nothing.

If right now you feelin’ broken for a mistake you did in the past, I wouldn’t tell you to forget it. ‘Cause it’s not something to forget. It’s part of your life. It’s part of you. Just forgive yourself, accept yourself as an ordinary human who can do a mistake, stop repeating your mistakes in your head, and learn from it to be a better person.

And always remember, when you fall, you gotta jump higher than before.

Save Your Heart for the RIght One

It’s not fun to have a broken heart. But hey, you gotta move on and live your life. Cry if you want, but maybe one day you would look back and laugh at yourself because of crying for a wrong person. Note this : “If she’he is not the one for you, it means you will get a better person. God will always have a great plan for you.”

I know it isn’t easy to forget them, especially when you spent lots of time with them. But rhere are some thing we can do to help healing our broken hearts. Let me share the things I did when I had my heart broken.

1.      Stop listening to sad songs, or any songs which remind you of them. There’s no point to remember each moment you had with them. And sad songs will only make you sad more and more. Instead of sad songs, try to listen to song like these ones : “Save your heart” by Mayday Parade, and “Save yourself” by Sense Field.
2.      Stop thinking about them. Don’t waste your time for them anymore. For what you think of someone who doesn’t think about you? Don’t think about them, don’t miss them.
3.      Talk to friends. True friends are awesome. Their support are priceless.
4.      Write down your feelings. You sad? Wanna cry? Or angry? Just write it all. I write poems to express my feelings and it helps.
5.      Don’t put a fake smile on your face. Fake smile is not good. And actually its kinda useless. If you keep crying inside. Smile from your heart, it’s the best thing. Look around you and you gotta find some good reasons to smile again.
6.      Help others. Maybe it sounds weird, but I did feel better when I could help people. Helping people gives you a good feeling and it can help healing your broken heart!
7.      Get busy. Do your old hobbies, play games, read books, etc. Get yourself busy. Don’t give yourself time to think about them.
8.      And don’t be afraid to fall in love again. Don’t close your heart only because a wrong person. You deserve to be with someone who truly loves you. And you will find the right one if you keep believe in love.

The truth is, life is short. Don’t waste it to keep being sad. Broken heart will be healed in time, trust me. I had it before, and now I have a fully-recovered heart. Don’t say you can’t live without them. Yes you can. Don’t say you can’t love anyone else but them. Sure you can.

You know, when God takes something from your hands, actually He is preparing you to get something better. Don’t forget it. When you find the firght one, you will understand what I mean. And till that day, just enjoy your life, be happy and save your heart for the one who deserves it.

Keep strong!

About Loving Yourself (English Version)

Many people often forget to love themselves. But actually it’s one of the most important aspects in life (in my opinion). Maybe there are also people who thought they have loved themselves, but haven’t done it in the best way.

So, how to love ourselves? Look, if we love someone just the way they are, it means we love them with all their talents and their weaknesses, right? That’s what we need to do to ourselves. To love ourselfves because of our talents, but also love ourselves though we know we have weaknesses.

Don’t hate ourselves because of our weakness. Because we know we have it, then we have to try to fix it so we can be a better person. When we can’t love ourselves, we can’t explore our talent perfectly.

The truth is, everyone has weakness. So if we can love others with their weaknesses, why can’t do the same to ourselves?

That, is something I’ve been trying. To love myself just the way I am, with all talents and weaknesses that I have. To be honest, when I did a mistake few weeks ago, it’s really hard not to hate myself. At that time, I realized that I was a very selfish person. Truly hate myself because of it. I always know that I’m a selfish person, but never thought I’m a VERY selfish person.

But then I think, if because of it I hate myself, then all this time I only loved my talents, and not also love my weakness. And it made me realize, that I do need to truly learn to love myself, while keep trying to fix my weakness.

And I have one good quote from my friend. He said, “if you want to be more good, you need to love you too.” I think it’s very true and very inspiring. Now can you see, how important it is, to love ourselves?

Whoever you are and wherever you are, don’t forget to love yourself just the way you are. All talents and weaknesses in you, which created you as you are right now.

So, love yourself, starting from now :)

About Loving Yourself

Banyak orang serng lupa untuk mencintai dirinya sendiri. Padahal itu salah satu aspek penting dalam hidup (kalo menurut aku sih). Mungkin ada juga orang yang merasa sudah mencintai dirinya sendiri, tapi sebenarnya belum melakukanya dengan maksimal.

Jadi gimana caranya mencintai diri kita? Gini, kalo dibilang kita mencintai seseorang apa adanya dia, artinya kita mencintai dia dengan segala kelebihan dan kekurangannya kan? Nah, itu juga yang harus kita lakukan ke diri kita. Mencintai diri kita karena kelebihan kita, tapi juga menyayangi diri kita meskipun kita tahu diri kita memiliki kekurangan.

Jangan membenci diri kita karena kekurangan kita. Justru karena kita tahu kita memiliki kekurangan, kita harus berusaha memperbaikinya, supaya kita bisa jadi orang yang lebih baik lagi. Karena, saat kita tidak mencintai diri kita, kita nggak bisa mengeksplorasi kelebihan kita dengan sempurna.

Kenyataannya adalah, semua orang pasti memiliki kekurangan. Jadi kalo kita bisa mencitnai orang lain dengan kekurangan mereka, kenapa nggak melakukan hal yang sama untuk diri sendiri?

Itu, juga adalah hal yang sedang aku coba. Mencintai diri sendiri apa adanya, dengan segala kelebhan dan kekurangan aku. Jujur, saat beberapa waktu lalu aku melakukan kesalahan, sulit banget untuk nggak membenci diri sendiri. Saat itu, aku sadar kalo aku adalah orang yang sangat egois. Bener-bener benci sama diri sendiri gara-gara itu. Aku tahu sih, klo aku itu orang yang egois, tapi nggak nyangka ternyata aku sangat egois.

Tapi kemudian aku mikir, jika karena itu aku kemudian membenci diri aku, berarti selama ini aku cuma mencintai kelebihanku aja, dan nggak mencintai kekuranganku. Dan itu bikin aku sadar bahwa aku harus bener-bener belajar untuk mencintai diri sendiri, sambil tentunya berusaha memperbaiki kekurangan aku.

Dan aku punya satu kutipan bagus dari temenku. Dia bilang, “if you want to be more good, you need to love you too.” Jika kamu pengen menjadi lebih baik, kamu perlu mencintai diri kamu juga. Menurut aku, itu kata-kata yang bener dan inspiring banget. Jadi keliatan kan, pentingnya mencintai diri sendiri?

Jadi siapapun kamu, dan di mana pun kamu berada, jangan lupa untuk mencintai diri kamu apa adanya. Semua kelebihan dan kekurangan yang kamu miliki itulah, yang membuat kamu adalah kamu :)

Jadi, cintai dirimu, dimulai dari sekarang :)

About Forgiving Yourself (English Version)

Once upon a time, I told a friend to forgive himself. I never thought it is not easy. The truth is, to forgive ourselves might be harder than forgive other people.

Every human do mistakes. We are human, no one is perfect. We all do mistakes sometimes, no matter it’s a small mistake or not. Maybe for a small mistake, it’s easy for us to forgive ourselves. But what if we did a VERY big mistake (in our opinion) ?

That’s the hardest part. As the result of doing a mistake, we might feel guilty. Feeling stupid. Or feeling very sad. The worst thing is, if we feel like we don’t deserve to live anymore. If you have or are feeling that way, don’t stop to try throwing away those negative feelings. It’s very hard, indeed, but it’s worth to try.

I think, the point from did a mistake is to admit our mistake, and the most important thing is to learn from it and promise not to repeat the same mistake. Especially because we know now, that we were wrong, now we have to live our life the best we can, and not keep regretting ourselves.

But I also understand, speaking is much more easier than do it. Because me too, still can’t forgive myself for a mistake I’ve done. But by keep being sad, we will only keep hurting the ones we love. And we don’t wanna do that, right?

Learn from our mistake, promise not to repeat the same mistake, keep living while keep trying to love the ones we love the best we can, and keep trying to forgive ourselves, maybe it’s the best thing we can do to redeem our mistakes.

Because only when we forgive ourselves, we will be able to love ourselves. And only when we love ourselves, we will be able to love others with all of our heart.

And trust me, you are not alone :)

Keep strong guys! :)

About Forgiving Yourself

Beberapa waktu yang lalu, aku pernah bilang ke seorang teman untuk maafin dirinya sendiri.Gak nyangka, ternyata itu gak gampang. Kenyataannya adalah, memaafkan diri sendiri itu mungkin lebih susah dari maafin orang lain.

Semua manusia pasti pernah berbuat salah. Namanya juga manusia, gak ada yang sempurna. Kita semua pasti pernah berbuat salah, meskipun itu kesalahan yang kecil banget.  Mungkin untuk kesalahan kecil, mudah aja bagi kita untuk memaafkan diri kita sendiri. Tapi gimana halnya kalau kita melakukan kesalahan yang (menurut kita), adalah kesalahan yang besar atau fatal?

Di situlah letak susahnya. Mungkin akibat melakukan kesalahan itu, kita bakal ngerasa bersalah banget. Ngerasa bodoh banget. Atau ngerasa sedih banget. Yang paling parah kalau kita sampe ngerasa gak pantas lagi buat hidup. Kalau kamu pernah atau lagi ngerasain perasaan itu, jangan berhenti untuk usaha ngebuang perasaan-perasaan negatif itu. Susah banget memang, tapi bakalan berharga untuk dicoba.

Menurut aku, inti dari melakukan kesalahan adalah mengakui kesalahan kita, dan yang terpenting adalah belajar dari kesalahan itu dan berjanji untuk gak mengulang kesalahan yang sama. Justru karena tau kita salah, kita harus berusaha menjalani hidup dengan sebaik-baiknya, dan bukannya terus menyesali diri.

Tapi aku ngerti banget, ngomong gini memang jauuuuuh lebih gampang dari melakukannya. Karena aku sendiri juga masih gak bisa maafin diri aku untuk sebuah kesalahan yang aku lakukan. Tapi dengan terus bersedih, kita cuma bakal semakin nyakitin orang-orang yang kita sayang. Dan kita gak pengen terus nyakitin mereka kan?

Belajar dari kesalahan kita di masa lalu, bertekad untuk gak ngulangin kesalahan yang sama, tetap hidup sambil terus berusaha mencintai orang-orang yang kita sayangi dengan sebaik-baikya, dan terus berusaha memaafkan diri sendiri, mungkin itu adalah hal terbaik yang bisa kita lakukan untuk menebus kesalahan kita.

Karena hanya saat kita memaafkan diri sendiri, kita akan mampu untuk mencintai diri kita. Dan hanya saat kita mencintai diri kitalah, kita akan bisa mencintai orang lain dengan sebaik-baiknya.

Dan percaya deh, kamu gak sendirian :) 

Keep strong guys :)